\WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR YOU, FOR YOUR SELF-ESTEEM, FOR YOUR FEELINGS OF SELF-WORTH, FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, FOR YOUR FAMILY?
There are all kinds of euphemisms bosses use to let you know that you are now unemployed–and they all mean that you are now unemployed. When you hear those words, many different thoughts and feelings go through you. What’s going to happen to your family? How are you going to pay your mortgage or rent? Fear, anger, rage and pain may all be part of what you are feeling. Are you worth anything without an income? You may feel like striking out at someone or something. In addition, you may feel as though you are losing a different family because you have been working with these people for a very long time. Your options may be very limited. There is no big severance package; you have been living almost from paycheck to paycheck. What next? How are you going to handle all of this?
In addition to everything mentioned above, there is also the issue of grieving. Grieving is not a process that we go through only because we have lost someone or something close to us to death. We also grieve the loss of a relationship, of a home, of employment, of certainty about our futures and many other things which we hold dear.
When mourning our losses, we go through several stages and some of you may be going through them as a result of now being unemployed. There is no time limit of going through these stages, and you will not go through them in a straight line from one to the other. You may, and probably will, go from one stage to another more than once. These stages are:
*Denial: you can’t believe that this is happening
*Anger: at everyone including yourself and no one
*Bargaining: you promise to be good so this won’t happen
*Depression: anger turned in on yourself
*Acceptance: of what happened and moving on
These are powerful feelings and can be difficult to deal with. I can help and am available. Please feel free to call me at 415-474-6707 to discuss any of this.